Imagine a condition called "Chronic Disclosure Syndrome." As long as I can remember, people have shared with me remarkable amounts of trust and personal information. Until I became a counselor, I did not know how to help people who shared with me their most private secrets.
It is an honor to be trusted. It is a privilege to witness a person's growth.
People can always tell me what would help them be happier, more peaceful, healthier . . . but "but" gets in the way. Folks list & describe the many reasons they cannot, should not, or will not act in their own best interests..
My job is to help you disrupt self-sabotage. "Selfish" can be a minupulative word used by people who want to get their hands on the time, talent, and treasure we are investing our self-care.
You're a creature, a living organism that requires food, water, shelter. Are your basic needs being met? How about all the other element of 'life' ... are they healthy & enriching, harmful or counterproductive, or a combination? Determination & willpower can't compensate for a lifestyle that would kill kudzu.